What do Gray Thursday, Black Friday, Small Business Saturday and Cyber Monday share in common? They try to con you into thinking buying stuff is the heart of Christmas. But what if you were to spend half the time you normally shop with your family? Or give a portion of the money you usually spend to make a difference in the lives of struggling people? Or make a list of things you are thankful for as long as your shopping list? Doing these things won’t change the world – but they may change your Christmas.