A Sunday Prayer

Dearest Lord,

You have created the universe in its vastness – yet love me as Your precious child. You have called all of your creation good – yet love me when I reject who I really am. You have given the gift of freedom – yet love me even as I walk away from You.

Thank You! For love that makes me unique. Love that is never diminished by what I may do. Love that calls me to a special purpose. And love that lasts for eternity.

May I be filled with this love. Transformed by it. Fulfilled in it. Share it in ways that make real differences in the lives of real people. And love You more with each breath I take.

I pray this in the strong name of Jesus.

Amen.

It’s All How You Look at It

Are you frustrated when the power goes out and you can’t watch your favorite show? Do you get impatient with your morning commute? Are you sometimes exasperated by your children? How you respond to what happens in your life is often based on how you look at it. It’s easy to develop a perspective of taking things for granted, feeling entitled and assuming God’s top priority is doing what you want. But think of the difference it could make if you start looking at everything with eyes of gratitude.

Home Away From HomeUnited Methodist Churches in Magnolia Have Worked to Make Students Feel Comfortable at SAU

Home Away From Home
United Methodist Churches in Magnolia Have Worked to Make Students Feel Comfortable at SAU

College students gather for fellowship with a local United Methodist Church in Magnolia. The program pairs college students at SAU with adults in the area who can keep up with the students while they attend school and assist them with basic needs like meals and transportation. || Photo provided by Dan Read

By Sam Pierce

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In 2017, in a span of about two weeks, two students at Southern Arkansas University in Magnolia committed suicide on campus. In response to the tragedy, Dan Read, the pastor at Greers Chapel United Methodist Church, began a program to pair college students with local families.

“I know what it is like to move far from home and not know anyone in your new environment,” Read said. “So we sent out a school-wide email to all students to let them know about this program and while they are here at Magnolia, we had mentors that would be here for them too.”

He said he quickly realized it was more than what his small church could handle. He said in the first year, there were 20 students wanting to take part, but he only had 12 sponsor families. Other churches have joined the program, including Emerson United Methodist and Magnolia First United Methodist.

“Having someone to turn to, outside the college, and knows the area, especially in the case of international students, and knows the culture here in south Arkansas, has been extremely beneficial,” Read said. “I know that some of my host families have done everything from taking students out to eat, letting them do laundry at their house and helping them with transportation to and from school.”

He said the main goal of the program is to build relationships between sponsor families and the students. He said most communicate about once a month in person or through emails and phone calls.

“I know that I was unique and when I went to churches, I looked and asked for a mentor,” Read said. “Students don’t really go to churches and ask for help. I thought we could offer that kind of help to them.

“That email that was sent out to every student, it was crucial. I am excited to see it continue to grow over the years.”

David Spradlin, who is on the board of the Wesley Foundation at SAU, was initially hesitant in adopting a college student. “I told (Dan), I had so much going on, that he needed to leave me out of this program,” Spradlin said.

However, when the need for foster families was not being met, Spradlin said he reluctantly joined and adopted two students last year. He enjoyed it so much, he took on six this year.

“We try to meet with them once every two to three weeks,” Spradlin said. “My wife and I contact them at least once during that time – they all have our number.

“It works pretty well. We tend to do it around meals, usually by going to a meal with them. They are all on board, which is kind of what we hoped for. Most of the students don’t live here, so it is a chance to go eat a meal and visit with someone, that isn’t a teacher or another student.

“Sometimes, we will have them over at the house and I will grill steaks or some kind of meal for them.”

Read said he appreciates how members of his congregation are involved and invested in the lives of people who are different by generation and by race. “That has been neat to see, the racial diversity, so cross-race boundaries are being broken too,” Read said.

Read said the neat thing about it is how other schools and towns have become interested in the project as well. He said it is a program that could be picked up across the state, connecting churches with college students.

“We are supposed to help them with their challenges,” Spradlin said. “I’m not rich, but I’m fairly well off. I’m well enough to take six college students out for lunch every couple of weeks.

“We deal with challenges, but as college students, the crises they have are bigger.” He said if his car breaks down, he has to take it to the shop and have it repaired, but if a student’s car breaks down, “that might be the end of the world for them.”

“Whatever the challenges are, we will try to do what we can to help,” Spradlin said. “I think they are looking for someone they can trust and feel comfortable with and not looking to use them in some way.

“We want to be a safe place.”

Read said it has been a little hard to get people to buy into the program.

“It is not a huge investment, to spend a lunch with a student, it can make all the difference for that student,” he said.

“I think it is doing what it should be doing,” Spradlin said. “I think it does some good, I really do.

“I have six students and one of them really needs help or assistance and that’s the one you worry about. I worry about the one falling through the crack because you don’t want to lose anyone. Out of the eight that we have dealt with, probably two of them really needed a friend and those are the two that I am here for.”

Prayer Reversal

Not too long ago, I realized I had fallen into a pattern of doing what I thought needed to happen, and then praying that God would bless it. Not surprisingly, it didn’t usually work out well. But recently, I’ve started reversing that process. I start with prayer that seeks God’s will, even though it takes longer and I often end up in places I never would have expected. Then – after I have God’s clarity – I go to work. Not surprisingly, my vision is almost always larger, my goal more faithful and things seem to work out better.

What God will Remember

You’ll do hundreds of things today. But what will God remember? God will remember how you said an encouraging word to someone who needs it. God will remember the way you helped someone in a way that made a difference to them. God will remember that you shared God’s grace with someone who feels forgotten. The things that God will remember – and the things that will bring tears of joy to God – all involve you simply sharing the love God first has shared with you.