The old saying “What you see is what you get” is true. If you see yourself as a victim, you’ll probably experience being one most of the time. If see yourself worse off than everyone else, that will be your reality. If you see God not loving you, you’ll never feel loved regardless of what God does. So what do you do? See something new – grace, joy and hope. They may only be small slivers. But they’re there. And seeing them will change what you experience every single time.